Here’s some food for thought: what does your relationship look like?
Not the social media projection of your relationship. What does it look like on the inside, from your perspective as a participant?
If you take a step back and look deeper into your relationship, you might have some enlightening observations.
How do you and your partner handle fighting? How do you handle jealousy? Do you communicate your hopes and dreams?
In this article, we’ll discuss some relationship healthy habits. Be on the watch for these 6 signs of a healthy relationship.
You Agree to Disagree
Do you and your partner get along all the time?
If so, you’re missing one of the key elements of a healthy relationship: disagreement. If you aren’t fighting, something is wrong.
Note, fighting should not be a daily occurrence. And it should never be abusive. But healthy fights are part of healthy relationships.
Healthy fighting is when you and your partner discuss a genuine disagreement and come up with a viable solution. Fights should never drag up the past. And although you may be angry, you keep in mind that you love this person and their opinion is valuable.
It’s one of the most important forms of communication you have in a relationship. And if you’re not fighting? That means you’re burying your feelings, which has catastrophic consequences.
People who don’t talk about their anger with their partner are doomed to end up unhappy and unhealthy in the long run. And the relationship will suffer, if not end, because of it.
You Build Trust, Not Jealousy
People in healthy relationships trust their partners. They don’t feel the need to stalk them while they’re out on the town with friends. They don’t snoop around in their cell phones.
If you or your partner does these things, it means you’re missing a level of trust that’s critical to the survival of a relationship. So how did the trust break down in the relationship?
Communication. If the two of you aren’t communicating, how can you trust each other?
Past events may cause you to lose trust in someone. Or if your partner is sneaking around or hiding things, there’s an issue. But some people are naturally more skeptical of others because of things that have happened to them in past relationships.
If any of these issues are present, then your relationship is not healthy. And you need a lot more communication to move past it.
Abuse is Not Part of the Equation
No form of abuse is okay. That includes physical, mental, and verbal abuse. Period.
Physical abuse is the most obvious form of abuse. Don’t stand for it. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline to find out the safest way to get out of the relationship.
If your partner insults you or degrades you as a person, they are verbally abusive. And if they’re threatening you with physical abuse, it’s time to get out.
Mental abuse is harder to put your finger on but is just as destructive as physical abuse. Passive-aggressive behaviors are a big part of mental abuse. Things like refusing to give or receive affection, rolling eyes, and projecting a negative attitude.
These are some of the methods that insecure people use to try and control other people. This type of behavior has no place in an adult relationship.
There’s another type of abuse that we need to mention here: substance abuse. If you or your partner is drinking heavily or using any type of drugs, get help. Your relationship is not real if either of you is caught up in Alcohol Addiction.
You’re on the Same Page
How do you feel about issues like children, work, and living situations?
The two of you need to be on the same page about major life decisions. This all boils down to solid communication.
Communicate your hopes and dreams to your partner. And listen to theirs. If you do this often, you’ll find out soon enough if you have different goals.
Having different goals is not necessarily a relationship killer. But it means you need to find a compromise that both parties will accept. If you can’t do that, then your relationship won’t fare well when it comes time to make big decisions.
You Can Use the Restroom In Front of Each Other
Okay, this may sound gross… but if you are comfortable enough to use the restroom in front of your partner, your relationship is likely in a good place. And even if you’re not there yet, it’s something to build toward.
This also brings up the subject of sex. Sex must be consensual, full of open communication, and done often. If you aren’t having sex very much, that’s a problem. And on the flip side, if your relationship is all about the sex and nothing else, it needs some work.
Also, if you’re so uncomfortable with your body that you won’t allow your partner to see you naked. Or only give permission to touch certain areas of your body, you need some work on your personal insecurities. Loving yourself is just as important as loving your partner.
You Learn from Your Mistakes
This one is important for relationship growth and personal growth. Both partners must be open to learning from their mistakes.
The means, of course, that you must admit it when you’ve made a mistake. Taking a slice out of the old "humble pie" isn’t easy. But it’s worth it to bring you and your partner closer.
Learning from your mistakes also means that you leave those mistakes in the past. It’s incredibly unhealthy to bring up past mistakes that your partner made. After all, nobody is perfect, even you.
Watch for the Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Do you and your partner exhibit the signs of a healthy relationship?
A great relationship includes healthy fighting to help get your issues out on the table. It’s built on a foundation of trust with no place for jealousy. And abuse, in any form, is not part of your life together as a couple.
You and your partner must be on the same page about important life decisions. You must be comfortable with each other, mind, body, and soul. And you must learn and grow from your mistakes.