When surveying people on the most important part of a relationship one thing always ranks above the rest; above sexual intimacy; above love.
What is it?
Building trust, especially when you have so many reasons not to, can be a hard task to accomplish, but not impossible. Like anything good in this world, it takes time.
In this article, we’ll share with you our expert’s seven best tips for building trust in a relationship. Remember that there’s no magic pill or phrase that will get the job done but with these seven tips and techniques, you will be well on your way to rebuilding a healthy relationship with your partner.
Grab your partner and let’s work on building trust together.
7 Techniques for Building Trust
Whether you two are just starting out or trying to rebuild a complicated relationship, trust is the core foundation between two people. Without a solid base, it can be hard to grow.
Trust allows you to place your confidence in someone. It’s critical for a healthy relationship. Without trust, insecurity and fear take over which can (and will) slowly eat away at your happiness.
Let’s find out how to create trust in your relationship.
1. Communicate Properly and Often
Trust goes hand in hand with another popular buzz word in the relationship world: communication.
No matter how close you may feel with your partner, you still don’t know everything they’re thinking or feeling. Communication is the only real way to convey your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and worries. You’ve probably heard the phrase communication is key.
Seeing things from your partner’s point of view gives you a window into their heart and soul and can help you understand the way they’ve been acting or behaving.
Communication isn’t just about the action of relaying a message but the quality of doing it. The best form of communication is face to face, without distraction. Put the phones down, power down your email, and make time to really speak to your partner and listen.
Remember that communicating is equal parts speaking and listening.
2. Set Boundaries That You Both Agree On
When starting a relationship or rebuilding one, it’s important that you and your significant other are on the same page. Communicate your values and boundaries.
What will you share with others? What will you keep to yourselves? How much alone time or physical time do each of you need? What are your insecurities?
These are important questions to discuss with your partner to ensure you’re on the same page of the same book.
3. Keep Your Promises…
….and don’t make ones you can’t keep.
Trust is all about being a reliable, dependable person. It’s often said that your word is the only thing we have.
The small things are just as important as the big things so whether you promise to pay the bills or pick up soymilk from the grocery store, try not to let your partner down.
4. Never Cheat
If you are unhappy with your current relationship and attracted to another person you have two options: communicate with your partner and try to fix the problem or communicate with your partner and end your relationship. The key, of course, is communication, as iterated in point one.
The biggest way to ruin buildup trust is committing adultery. Now it’s possible to regain trust after something like this happens but it will take time and it certainly won’t be easy.
5. Take Responsibility for Your Actions
It’s easy to get defensive when you make a mistake and it’s even easier to place the blame elsewhere. Not only is this easy to see through but it’s dishonest and can leave your partner hurting.
Building truthful and healthy relationship is all about putting aside your anger, owning up to your actions, and avoid blaming the other person.
6. Put Your Relationship First
If you want a houseplant to live long, you feed it, water it, allow it fresh air and sunshine. If you get a puppy, to keep it happy and healthy you find out what food it likes, walk it, play with it daily. If you want your new computer to last, you avoid water and extreme temperatures, handle it with care, and update it often.
It’s simple. If you want something (anything) to last, you find out what it needs and take good care of it.
Your relationship is no different.
In today’s world, it’s easy to get caught up in life. As the years go on, we know it’s all too easy to take your loved ones for granted therefore it’s important to keep putting work into your relationship just like you would your career and gym body.
If this is hard for you to remember, make it a habit by penciling it in! Try scheduling weekly date nights, conversation time, or mini getaways.
It doesn’t have to be complex, just showing your partner you care with actions is enough. Packing sandwiches, leaving your phones in the car, and heading to the park is something simple and cheap that could transform your relationship.
7. Be Open and Responsive to Feedback
Keep open communication with your partner on what bothers him or her and how you can improve and vice versa. Share with your partner what’s bothering you and avoid keeping your problems inside which can breed resentment.
Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to a failing relationship. It might be hard to hear but if it makes your significant other happier and improves your relationship, isn’t it worth it?
Consider Relationship Counseling
If you’re struggling with your relationship there’s no shame in getting professional help. The best time to go to couples counseling is right now.
Building trust is one of the many things were are able to help you with during an appointment. At the Blair Wellness Group, we have various programs and specially trained counselors and therapists available to help you through any situation or condition you may be experiencing.
You can save your relationshipand we can help.Contact us today and set up your appointment.